The ABCs of Marriage M

M is for Magnify

Magnify means to increase the perception of in order of importance. Whatever you focus on in your marriage, you will react or respond to each other. If you focus on the negatives in your marriage, you will react towards your spouse with fear, bitterness, defensiveness and strife. When you focus on the positives, you will respond to your mate with love, hope and respect. Spend some time after you read this entry and write down the strengths and positive things in your marriage. When you magnify the strengths, you will have the strength and the willingness to deal with the perceived growth areas.

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The ABCs of Marriage L

L is for Love Language

Do you know your mate's Love Language. Love language is how you show and want to receive love. Here are four types of Love Language;

1. Words of Affirmation-you receive love by hearing words like "I love you", "I appreciate you", "You looked nice" and "You are my best friend".

2. Service-You receive love by servicing others and by others servicing you.

3. Time-You receive love by spending quality time with your mate.

4. Gifts-You receive love by giving and receiving tokens of love. (i.e. cards, candy, big and small gifts)



5. Touch- You receive love by being affectionate; holding hands, back rubs, massages and kissing.

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The ABCs of Marriage K

K is for Knowing

One very important element in marriage is the importance of KNOWING EACH OTHER! We spend so much time getting to know each other during the dating period, but when couples get married they feel like they know each other. When couples feel like they know each other, it lead to assumptions, thinking for each other and speculation. Regardless of how long you have been married, keep getting to know each other. Here are some things you should get to KNOW;

1. Favorite colors?

2. Favorite places?

3. What makes you happy, sad, frustrated, mad and motivated?

4. What are your dreams?

5. What would you do if you know you could not fail?

6. If you had some free time, what would you do?

7. If you could create something, what would you create?

8. Favorite TV program, movie and character

9. Favorite book

10. Favorite music

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The ABCs of Marriage J

J is for Journal

Journaling is a great idea for couples to treasure their thoughts and memories. Here are some things that could be included in your journal.

1. Give your journal a name
2. Write each other love letters and notes.
3. Have a section for prayer requests and testimonies.
4. Write down dreams
5. Write down your marital vision
6. Special memories
7. Lists of DATES
8. Your Love Languages
9. Ideas of how to enhance your marriage
10. Greatest challenges and greatest victories

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The ABCs of Marriage I

I is for Intimacy

A FUNdamental principle for married couples is to have a healthy, active intimate relationship. Many times the longer the couple is married, their intimate life becomes boring, routine and dead. Here are some tips to help couples keep their intimate life anew;

1. InTIMatE is all about TIME together. Daily spend time together to develop a deeper closeness.

2. Create the right atmosphere by spending time together, talking together and touching.

3. Make sure other areas in your relationship is going well, thereby allowing being intimate a celebration.

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The ABCs of Marriage H

H is for Haven

Marriage should be a place of peace, principles and passion. God created the first couple, Adam and Eve, and put them in the Garden of Eden. This garden was a haven, a protective place of delight.

The ABCs of Marriage G

G is for Goals

Goals are very important to a couple. When couples establish goals for their marriage, it forces them to move forward. Marriage was created for progression, therefore it is vital for couples to establish goals. Here are some examples of marital goals:

1. Within the next seven days, we will schedule at time to go on a date.

2. By next year this time, we will attend a marriage seminar.

3. Next Tuesday at 7:00pm, we will meet to discuss the finances.

Here are a few tips to consider when establishing SMART marital goals:

Specific
Measurable
Attainable
Realistic
Tangible

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The ABCs of Marriage F

F is for Fulfillment

Marriage was created for fulfillment. Fulfillment is a manifestation of an applied truth. When couples learn and apply Biblical and Practical Truth, they will start to see and experience fulfillment.

The ABCs of Marriage E

E is for Encouragement

Encouragement means to have the ability to confront and conquer obstacles. Marriage was created for progression, therefore it is very important that the couples to stay encourage to prevent anything from preventing that progress. Here is how to stay encourage;

1. Allow God to be your source of strength and courage.

2. Realize the every problem has a solution.

3. Understand that the Power of Agreement is greater that the Power of Adversity.

4. Confront instead of ignore obstacles.

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The ABCs of Marriage D

D is for Deposit

A main goal in your marriage is to make deposit. What are deposit? Deposits are acts of kindness, verbal appreciation, basically anything to improve your marriage. Here are a list of Deposits:

1. Saying I Love You

2. Going on a DATE (Designated Alone Time with Each other)

3. Praying for each other

4. Attending a Marriage Seminar

5. Appreciating each other

6. Giving each other a massage

7. Get away weekend

8. Working through a Marital Devotion

9. Sending each other a silly card

10. Going for a long walk

Make a point to start making deposits in your marriage!

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The ABCs of Marriage C

C is for Commitment

Commitment means a steadfast fixity of purpose. Commitment is based on a well thought through decision, not an impulsive emotion. Commitment is knowing why you are doing something, rather than feeling obligated. Commitment is re-enforced by words and actions. Set some time aside and look at each other and reaffirm your commitment.

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The ABCs of Marriage B

B is for Believe

One of the FUNdamentals of a great marriage is to have a strong Belief system. The couple must believe in Christ as their total source, believe in each other and believe they will and can have the BEST marriage ever! Whatever you believe in will eventually become a reality. Everything is create first by what you believe in. Belief is simple taking a though and making it a Truth in your life. So, start today creating some positive thoughts about each other and your marriage and transform those thoughts, through meditation, to a belief. Once it is a belief, then you will see it manifested throughout your relationship.

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The ABCs of Marriage- A

There is a principle that emphasize that if you know the fundamentals, you can master anything. I want to share with you the FUNdamentals of marriage, it is as simple as knowing your ABCs.

A is for Appreciation

To appreciate is to set a value on. In marriage, you must appreciate each other's differences, time, opinions, acts of kindness and your commitment.

Take time today and share how much you appreciate each other!

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How DEEP can we go?

Communication in marriage is very vital. To have an Excellent Marriage, the couple must be willing to go deeper in their communication. I want to share four levels in communication:

Daily conversation-this level is the surface level. You are discussing small talk.
Enlightenment-this level you are sharing how you both think about a certain situation.
Emotional-this level you are sharing how you both feel about certain situations
Personal-this is the deepest level. At this level, you are sharing who you are; your dreams, fears and your deepest innermost being.

How does a couple reach to this deep level? It takes time, trusting and being transparent. Begin to deepen your communication with your spouse.

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Marriage-Heaven on Earth

God create marriage to be on Heaven on Earth!!!!!!

Genesis 2:8
Now the Lord God had planted a garden in the east, in Eden; and there he put the man he had formed.

The phrase "Garden of Eden" means a protected place of delight. It literally means Paradise or Heaven on earth.

Would you like to have this type of marriage? It is possible! We will show you how, stay tune!

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What type of marriage do you want?

Please discuss with your mate this very important question; What type of marriage do we want?

1. Single-minded Marriage-A marriage where the people live two separate lives.

2. Just Married-A marriage based on mediocrity.

3. An Excellent Marriage- A marriage where you both are striving to excel in your marriage.

Remember this: Whatever type of marriage you want is the type of marriage you will pursue.

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Welcome to ExcelNMarriage

Hello and welcome to my new blog! We are excited to share proven principles to help you Excel in your marriage. This blog will share practical principles on marriage, links to great marriage resources and insights for dating and engaged couples. Visit the blog often so you can Excel in your marriage!

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